My mum and I had one of those strangely close but often dysfunctional relationships.
She loved me intensely, but didn’t have good boundaries, didn’t protect me from predators and, throughout my adolescence, treated me too much like a friend and not enough like a child.
Despite all that, I feel emotionally complete about my relationship with my mum, thanks to the work I’ve done with the Grief Recovery Method.
While I’m no longer in the emotional pain I was after she died, I still miss her.
I miss the friendship we shared. I miss how much she doted on my kids (and, frankly, I’d love some more help to get them and me both through their adolescence). I miss chatting on the phone and going out for lunch. I miss having a buddy to go bra shopping with.
My belief is that our loved ones who’ve died are still around us, still loving us. And we’re able to communicate with them. When I’ve worked as a medium, that’s what I did for people. I connected with their loved ones to bring through messages.
You don’t have to be a medium to connect with your loved ones in Spirit, though.
Sometimes it’s just through the warm feeling you get when you think of them. Or it might be a song you hear on the radio. (If you’re interested in learning more about the signs we get from loved ones, consider my online course, Signs from Spirit.)
However, it’s possible, even without being a medium, to connect with them on a more visceral level. Christina Rasmussen describes this journey in her book Where did you go? A life-changing journey to connect with those we’ve lost.
A client actually sent me this book in the mail because she thought I’d enjoy it. She’s right. I did. (She’s more intuitive than she recognizes.)
In Where did you go? you’ll learn about several journeys you can take into a greater reality than the one we live in during our everyday lives. You connect with your Super Watcher or high self and visit your loved ones in Spirit, as well as places that connect you to your self in future and past times and the field of energy that makes up all reality.
The author explains all this in a loving, reassuring way, helping your brain get past its insistence on living in a reality based on fear and survival.
This book won’t magically take your grief away. It doesn’t promise to ensure that the only things you’ll experience in your everyday reality are love, light and unicorn sparkles. What it does is help you connect with a greater understanding of life and the nature of reality as a whole.
Getting to hang out with your loved ones in Spirit and realizing they’re not really gone, except in physical form, is a beneficial side effect. That’s what I miss the most about my Mum. Just getting to be together. Now I can do that in an even deeper way, but with healthy, loving boundaries.